Recent life events

Progress on my Magneto helmet. It needs to dry in the sun, get sanded, then painted, then sanded again, until I die, basically. That was my understanding of the instructions anyway.

One of the great pleasures of my life is that I get to follow Jared Axelrod around and take his picture, wherever we go. From giant sand dunes to city streets to standing under rainbows, I always have a subject I love.

Happy Birthday, wonderful man!

He points to the little boy playing among the skaters. “What an annoyance!” he says.

"He’s cute," I respond.

"He comes from here," says the man, gesturing to his crotch.

"Ah," I say.

"I made him," he says.

"He’s got great hair," I said.

"Thanks, it been like, six colors in the last year."

The skatepark at Grays Ferry Crescent in Philadelphia

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This dog’s name is Willie. I met him at the Punk Picnic. I didn’t intend to go to the Punk Picnic, it just sort of happened.
I went to take pictures of someone else, but a lot of things can happen when you leave your house. So watch out. You might meet punks at a picnic. You might meet cute dogs. Anything could happen. 
Then I met this dog.

This dog’s name is Willie. I met him at the Punk Picnic. I didn’t intend to go to the Punk Picnic, it just sort of happened.

I went to take pictures of someone else, but a lot of things can happen when you leave your house. So watch out. You might meet punks at a picnic. You might meet cute dogs. Anything could happen.

Then I met this dog.

Number 11: You Can Fire Your Medical Professional

So, I just realized that I have a Important Number 11 to my 10 Secrets I Learned about Adulthood Post.

ADDENDUM: NUMBER 11: You Can Fire Your Medical Professional

Many people don’t realize that they can FIRE THE HECK out of their medical professionals.

Your Doctor doesn’t listen to you when you talk about your symptoms? Is too rough with your sensitive bits?

Fire them.

If your dentist is rough with your lips, and leaves them cracked and bleeding? Or shines that bright light in your face and doesn’t offer you sunglasses or let you bring your own? Doesn’t stop when you tell them you need a break from the drilling?

Guess what? That is a FIRING OFFENSE.

Your therapist just said something homophobic? Spend the whole time talking about their thesis rather than your issues? Or just doesn’t click with you?

Find another, Skywalker.

Lots of people decide not to see a Doctor or Dentist or Therapist because they saw one and it was awful. But if we had a broken toilet, and a plumber came over and was like “Uh, I don’t know how to fix that” we wouldn’t just be like “OH I GUESS I WON’T USE THIS TOILET THEN!” We would be like “Get out of my house. I am calling someone else who knows how to fix my problem.”

You are worth more than a broken toilet.

You can totally choose a new Doctor, Dentist, Specialist, and Therapist. You are an adult and you get to choose who puts their hands on your body. Many medical professionals are amazing. Some are terrible. You can totally fire the awful ones and go looking for someone who listens, who is intelligent and thoughtful and who will explain things to you.

Read the other 10 Secrets I Learned about Adulthood

10 Secrets I Learned About Adulthood

1. Most appliances have a filter or a tray or something you need to clean out/replace regularly.

2. You do not have to spend any social time with people you don’t like. Cut them out of your life, and you will be happier. (They might be happier too.)

3. Style your hair the way you like.  Most people who you think will care do not actually care.

4. People will die. It is not always the people you might expect. If you love them, tell them.

5. Exercise does not have to be about attaining some standard of beauty. It can be about keeping your internal organs and muscles in fine working order. It can be you deciding where you need to be strong and arranging your workouts to help you do that. It can also just be fun.

6. Often, we think we’re angry when actually we’re just embarrassed. Learn to tell the difference between them.

7. Keeping your space clean isn’t something you’re doing for others. It’s the gift you give to yourself. You deserve that gift.

8. You cannot trust your future self. They have concerns you can’t predict. If you can do it now, do it now.

9. See your Doctor and Dentist regularly. They can identify problems before they become problems.

10. There is no point. There is just the journey. Enjoy the journey.

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JJJJJEEEAAANNNNNN!!!!! #ax2014 #wolverine #ballpit #shenanigans

One of my favorite bits of anime expo is the fabulous cosplay area they have set up, different scenes from a bedroom to a forest scene, and, of course, a ball pit.

Model: Jared Axelrod
Photo by JR Blackwell

The benevolent elephant, as served at the Farmers Cabinet in Philadelphia.
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The benevolent elephant, as served at the Farmers Cabinet in Philadelphia.

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